Can you love more than one person at a time in a relationship? Can one person love another more than they are loved? Can we run away from it, lock our hearts and refuse to engage?
If you want to create a connected, lasting relationship then it’s not the physical attraction that keeps someone in a relationship. The other needs to feel something else in order to want you and only you and that’s an emotional attraction, a trigger.
Ever been on a date, had a great evening where the other arranges to call you for another date then quick as a wink disappears and you don’t hear from them again? Is there an unconscious message you have telepathically delivered that says “I’m not interested”, or are they just not into you and they don’t want to hurt your feelings.
I feel your whisper across the universe, oceans and nearby, here I am, where are you?
Some people come into our lives for a reason, sometimes only a season and sometimes for a lifetime and when they do, we are made to feel special because of it. Do you have family and friends who take it upon themselves to introduce you to others in the hope it’ll be the one? Do they assume that having a partner will make you happy? Do you get lonely being on your own?
Continue reading “Here I am”
The bible tells us that God created the world in 7 days and formed Adam and Eve. It is assumed they were created for the purpose of procreation and creation of a global society.
The desire to have children and even remain single are choices being made everyday. Divorce, abuse, dysfunctional families, cheating partners are what consciously or unconsciously prevent connections, new experiences or even opportunities from taking place.
If you have no expectations or desire for a long term relationship, want a casual, sexual encounter without getting emotionally embroiled then as long as you know what you’re getting into and it fits with what you are after, it can be great.
There are lots of women and men who hook up without any feelings of attachment. The moment an emotional attachment starts being formed is when things can get messy. People generally don’t talk about their hook ups since most people are judgmental and passionately attack the concept of FWB though, some may brag to friends about having someone “on the side”.
A facebook friend of mine recently posted this.
A store that sells husbands has just opened where a woman may go to choose a husband from among many men. The store is composed of 6 floors, and the men increase in positive attributes as the shopper ascends the flights. There is, however, a catch. As you open the door to any floor you may choose a man from that floor, but if you go up a floor, you cannot go back down except to exit the building.
A woman goes to the shopping center to find a husband.
On the first floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 – These men have jobs. The woman reads the sign and says to herself, “Well, that’s better than my last boyfriend, but I wonder what’s further up?” So up she goes.
The second floor sign reads: Floor 2 – These men have jobs and love kids. The woman remarks to herself, “That’s great, but I wonder what’s further up?” And up she goes again.
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