When emotional intelligence first appeared to the masses, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding: people with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70% of the time. This anomaly… More
Last week I wrote about Our Not So Perfect Selves. This is a continuation about us as a race. It saddens me to think that with all our knowledge, skills and resources, we as a human race have not changed all that much or implemented lessons from our past.
Over a period of two weeks, I happened to see two movies, The Zookeepers Wife and The Promise. Both set in two different parts of the world, one in Warsaw, Poland and the other in Turkey. The Zookeeper’s Wife was set in Poland and dealt with the extermination/genocide of Jews who were herded like cattle in what became known as the Warsaw Ghetto, and their eventual demise at the hands of the invading force of German Nazis. The other was about the extermination/genocide of the Armenian people who existed in Turkey by the hands of their fellow countrymen.
Have you heard of archetypes? These are personality types and the ones below were created by Caroline Myss. They depict an aspect of your personality that makes you keep doing the things you do. Being aware of them is one step to making a change within yourself.
There are over 70 archetypes. Myss states that ‘to help you understand and fulfill your life, you have been encoded with a set of 12 primary archetypes. Four of these are universal archetypes related to survival: the Child, Victim, Prostitute, and Saboteur. We all have these because they are vital to our growth and functioning as adults. The other eight are drawn from the vast storehouse of archetypes and play valuable roles that relate to our work, our relationships with individuals and society, as well as to our spirituality, finances, values, and our highest potential ‘. An example of some of these are listed below’.
A Partial Listing of Archetypes
Actor Addict Anarchist Alchemist Artist Avenger Beggar Bully Bureaucrat Caregiver Child Clown Companion Coward Craftsperson Crook Crone Damsel Detective Dictator Dilettante Diplomat Disciple Dreamer Diva Eternal M/F Evangelist Fool Gala Gambler God Goddess Gossip Healer Herlad
Hermit Hero Historian Innovator Judge Knight Lover Liberator Magician Martyr Masochist Matriarch Midas Monk Muse Mystic Nature M/F Networker Nun Olympian Patriarch Pilgrim Pioneer Poet Politician Predator Priest Prince Princess Prophet Prostitute Provocateur Puck Puppet Puritan Rebel Redeemer Rescuer Revolutionary Robot Saboteur Sadist Sage Samaritan Scholar Scout Seductress Seeker Seer Servant Settler Scribe Shaman Sidekick Slave Spoiler Storyteller Student Teacher Thief Tramp Trickster . Tyrant Vampire Victim Visionary Warrior Witch Wizard Zombie
For more details: https://www.myss.com/free-resources/sacred-contracts-and-your-archetypes/appendix-the-four-archetypes-of-survival/
How often do we study ourselves in any depth? Last night sitting with friends over dinner we ended up discussing this very point. It’s only we when lose something do we think about and reflect on our loss. With promises to ourselves to make changes and not repeat the same mistakes, we undertake courses, read books, research and find information about a variety of things and we believe we can and will make those changes.
Unfortunately once we get back into our comfort zone, we do not continue to reflect but rather tend to revert back to our old ways. Not until an issue rears its ugly head or a warning bell rings, do we think OMG that’s what happened before. It’s only then that whatever we learnt, we start trying to do something about.
So why do I bring this up? This is where the archetypes come forth. Myss states there are universal ones that are within all of us but you may be thinking how do these archetypes really relate to me? The Prostitute for example is one that I could imagine might offend some people, but this is about us having control over our body, mind and spirit, saying “I am not for sale.” Thus applies to not being held to ransom.
If you are a relatively positive person being a Saboteur may not sit well either. To understand this we need to examine how it relates to the many ways in which we undermine ourselves. For example, how often do we set new plans in motion, only to end up not following through due to fears that undermine those plans. The Victim on the other hand can alert you to the possibility that you could permit yourself to be victimised or alternatively it could make you more aware of your own tendencies to victimise others.
The last of the four universal archetypes is the Child and this one is far more complex than the others. The child could be one of seven different personality types. The Child relates specifically to nurturing that part of us that yearns to be lighthearted and innocent, expecting the wonders of tomorrow, regardless of age.It establishes our perceptions of life, safety, nurturing, loyalty and family.
Looking at ourselves never really hurt anyone except maybe ourselves with the realisation that we are not perfect and that we do make mistakes. Maybe looking at the Myss archetypes may be of value to you.
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No matter if we are young or older, anxiety can hit us at anytime. The pressures of life are but one re-occurring theme, but more importantly are the pressures that we put on ourselves that need to be managed. Many people journey from stress to relaxation and seem to manage it whereas others just journey to the other side and get stuck there, seeing nothing but angst.
- 1 can coconut milk or 1⅓ cup non dairy milk of choice
- ¾ to 1 tsp turmeric
- ¼ tsp ground ginger
- ¼ tsp ground cinnamon ( or cardamom or other spices)
- a good dash of black pepper
- 1 tbsp orange preserves or zest of half a small orange
- 2 tbsp maple syrup or more to taste
- ¼ cup + 2 tbsp chia seeds
- Heat 1 cup of the coconut milk, turmeric, ginger, cinnamon, pepper over medium heat until just boiling. Take off heat.
- Add rest of the coconut milk, orange preserves, maple syrup and chia seeds and mix vigorously. Taste and adjust sweet, flavor if needed. Let it sit to cool completely for 10 to 15 minutes.
- Whisk the mixture vigorously again. The chia seeds should have expanded a bit and should distribute well. You can directly serve at this point or pour into serving containers and chill for more hydrated chia seeds and thicker pudding. Garnish with whipped coconut cream and candied ginger and serve.
Based on the song by Zayn- Pillow Talk we tell the story of a relationship and the importance of Conversations That Matter. Continue reading “Pillow Talk – The Vibe”
Can you love more than one person at a time in a relationship? Can one person love another more than they are loved? Can we run away from it, lock our hearts and refuse to engage?
Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.
Everyone would like that — it’s easy to like that.
Shyness can be depilating. It prevents you from socialising and makes you lose confidence in yourself. There are different degrees of shyness from being nervous, quiet and uncomfortable to being stressed and worried in the presence of others.
What is joyful noise to you? The sound of laughter, excitement, love making, music, dancing to a beat, the sound of children. To me all this is joyful noise however not everyone in life can enjoy these simple pleasures.